I help people get clarity &
so their can feel more alive and joyful
in their life and career.
Because I believe we are all
unique & perfectly imperfect humans.
* The imperfectionist is
one who embraces his "imperfections" and turns them into superpowers
one who trains to think non-binary
one who partners with their trauma to grow
one who decides of their own identity
one who consciously decides not to subscribe to the patriarchy perfect roles their have inherited
one who wants to get "in trouble" (the good kind) and feel more alive
Becoming an imperfectionist, isn't that hard.
Our (programmed) brain try to overcomplicate it.
I know because I use to be the most indecisive perfectionist you have ever met...
I was constantly looking for information to make "the right choice".
At restaurant, I would ask everyone else what they were getting, would take about 10 min to order my dish, and then 2 min later would chase the waiter in the restaurant to change my order...
At home, I would delegate to my husband the planning of all our social interactions and outdoor activities (and then blame him if I wasn't happy).
At work, I was very quiet and very prolific but would only express opinion once I had gathered all the data I needed, creating a lot of work and mental load for myself.
As a decision phobic I had developed multiple techniques & relationship dynamic to avoid making decisions.
What I wasn't realizing is that I was delegating my power and authority.
Overtime, an intense feeling of "being trapped" in my life started to emerge until it overwhelmed me.
My entire life, I had believed that there was ONE right choice / way. I did what "good girls" do: the studying (2 masters & a PhD), the mothering (twin boys), the sporting, the over-working. I had reacted perfectly to all that life at thrown at me... until I got a good knock on the head (literally)!
All a sudden, I could not contain my grief, my anger and my fears.
I could not be perfect.
And I am glad.
Because it taught me a lot.
No one is perfect ( duh!! I know it sounds obvious but you might need to be reminded), in fact, we are all uniquely perfectly imperfect humans.
Life is a more fun when you allow a little messiness
We tend to live our lives according to rules & conventions we never intentionally signed up on
We all have inherited trauma that highjacks our behaviors
We should ALL give ourselves a little break!!!