I help people get clarity &
become imperfectionists*,
so their can feel more alive and joyful
in their life and career.
Because I believe we are all
unique & perfectly imperfect humans.
* The imperfectionist is
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one who embraces his "imperfections" and turns them into superpowers
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one who trains to think non-binary
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one who partners with their trauma to grow
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one who decides of their own identity
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one who consciously decides not to subscribe to the patriarchy perfect roles their have inherited
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one who wants to get "in trouble" (the good kind) and feel more alive
Becoming an imperfectionist, isn't that hard.
Our (programmed) brain try to overcomplicate it.
I know because I use to be the most indecisive perfectionist you have ever met...
I was constantly looking for information to make "the right choice".
At restaurant, I would ask everyone else what they were getting, would take about 10 min to order my dish, and then 2 min later would chase the waiter in the restaurant to change my order...
At home, I would delegate to my husband the planning of all our social interactions and outdoor activities (and then blame him if I wasn't happy).
At work, I was very quiet and very prolific but would only express opinion once I had gathered all the data I needed, creating a lot of work and mental load for myself.
As a decision phobic I had developed multiple techniques & relationship dynamic to avoid making decisions.
What I wasn't realizing is that I was delegating my power and authority.
Overtime, an intense feeling of "being trapped" in my life started to emerge until it overwhelmed me.
My entire life, I had believed that there was ONE right choice / way. I did what "good girls" do: the studying (2 masters & a PhD), the mothering (twin boys), the sporting, the over-working. I had reacted perfectly to all that life at thrown at me... until I got a good knock on the head (literally)!
All a sudden, I could not contain my grief, my anger and my fears.
I could not be perfect.
And I am glad.
Because it taught me a lot.
Including that:
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No one is perfect ( duh!! I know it sounds obvious but you might need to be reminded), in fact, we are all uniquely perfectly imperfect humans.
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Life is a more fun when you allow a little messiness
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We tend to live our lives according to rules & conventions we never intentionally signed up on
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We all have inherited trauma that highjacks our behaviors
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We should ALL give ourselves a little break!!!
